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[quote=Anonymous]OP, this is a rough road, but you can all be OK.

1.) When my son's dad and I went through this ten years ago, we used a mediator. It was a good idea. Generally speaking, the more you can agree to outside of a courtroom, the better. If it goes before a judge, you may both wind up with something you are unhappy with. The nice thing about using a mediator is that it forces both of you to do this will your hands above the table. A mediator is a neutral third party. Bonus in our case: we both found the guy irritating and it gave us some common ground.

2.) Nope, we didn't do that. One of the issues that lead to our split had to do with boundaries, or lack of them. While we recognized that we were each good parents, this isn't something we were able to get comfortable with. I wanted out more than I wanted to stay in the house, so I moved. We have 50/50 custody. I busted my butt to find a place in the same neighborhood that I could afford.

3.)If you don't care, no. It's a waste of money and energy. And it has just about zero bearing on any custody or support decisions. Distance and time will help you with this one.

Hopefully this thread will stay constructive. If it doesn't, come repost it in Special Concerns.

The saddest singular moment in my divorce journey was standing in the Barns & Noble looking at books with titles like "It's Not Your Fault, Koko Bear." And then buying them. I hear the Sandcastles books are good. We loved Two Homes by Clair Masurel. It's a great book for preschoolers, and conveys the love a kid has in two houses in  a simple way without being melancholy. [/quote]

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