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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Attention seeking behavior. In her mind you value her younger siblings more.

She's not going to outright be nasty to them or you, but little things like eating their lunch and treats and taking your brush just enough to be noticed and be annoying.

You say she prioritizes her self over others ( not totally abnormal for a teen or anyone really) do you often expect her to give, give in or be flexible for her sisters?  Do you give them things of  hers  and when she asks about it say " I didn't know you needed it"
i say this because I was the teen with much younger siblings and your daughter's behavior is a lot like mine. I wasn't the type of kid who would get into a shouting match with my mother but I didn't feel as valued compared to my siblings and I was expected to take on  a lot of responsibility towards them and everything in the family had to revolve around the girls and if I wanted to do something different I was being selfish.

I still remember my mom allowing my sister to borrow  my socks when she took them from me without asking. Because I wasn't using them and I shouldn't have taken it back from her and I was older so I should have known better etc. Ugh

Part of that was normal teenage growing pains, adjusting to a step dad and younger siblings, and part of it was  me feeling as though I no longer mattered to my mom, and if I tried to tell her I felt she had favorites she would brush me  aside. Lots of damage to our relationship. Thankfully we're in a good place now thanks to therapy and being a mom myself now I appreciate how stressful it can be.
Just thought I'd offer my perspective.
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I'd recommend you seek family therapy.

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