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[quote=Anonymous]I am in almost the exact same situation, but am married with a family to consider and have a sibling that can share the burden. Instead of giving you advice about the financial help available for your father, I'm going to give you advice personally. Now, in my situation...my father has always been this way. My dad is actually abusive, don't know if that's the case with you, but has always been on the cusp of homelessness despite financial windfalls, etc. so, here's what I've learned. You have to have boundaries, and stick to them. I suspect you are a young female, if you continue to live your life housing your father, and caring for him...you are seriously limiting the chances of a successful future for yourself (e.g. If you want to meet someone, have children, run a fortune 500 company, whatever). If your dad is like mine, he's hard to say no to, but will sponge off you as long as he can. You need to move your focus now on asserting the boundaries you've set with him. Find government assisted housing he can live in, a shelter, whatever, and let him know you love him...but are not living like this. If he's truly mentally I'll, you need to research public programs that will manage him. I'd give him an extra thirty days, I'd let him know where he's going to go if he doesn't show forward moving progress, and in thirty days I'd pack his bag and change my lock. If he knows he doesn't have you to fall back on...he'll probably make an effort to care for himself. This has been my experience. Again, you have to have boundaries, you have a right to a life...and you have done well by your father. I hope this is helpful. I feel for you.[/quote]

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