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I agree with this completely but don't know what to do about it. She is a good kid in many other ways but certainly always prioritizes herself over others. When spoken to about her behavior she says she "didn't know" or has some excuse about why it's okay.  I thought I may have actually gotten through to her until this morning when she took my brush. I'm at a loss here.[/quote]

It seems to me that there are three options:

1. You do what she does.
2. Set rules. For example, every time she uses something somebody else needs, you will decline to provide her with something she needs, so she'll either have to provide it herself or go without; every time she eats the toddler's lunch, she will have to either pay for school lunch out of her own pocket or skip lunch; and so on.
3. Take away opportunities for her to do what she's been doing. Lock your room so she can't take your stuff, don't allow her into her sister's room, only let her use the refrigerator/pantry under your supervision. The argument here would be that the consequence of her untrustworthy behavior is that you will no longer trust her.

I favor #1, but you say that you don't want to model bad behavior. #2 seems likely to result in endless legalistic discussions about how you never explicitly said that she couldn't do x so it's not fair that you're doing y. #3 will be a huge inconvenience for you.[/quote]

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