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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My almost 15 yr old DD is taking things that belong to others in our household. [b]She's taken our toddler's lunch with his name on it from the refrigerator and eaten it[/b] when she doesn't want to bring something else for lunch or already eaten hers. [b]She will go into her sister's room and take her candy when she thinks no one will notice.[/b]  She has been coming into my room to borrow my hair brush because she prefers it to hers, and this morning she took it with her to school, leaving me without.

Obviously, my discussions with her to correct this behavior have failed. What do I do?[/quote]

Wow, that's too much.  Literally taking candy from a "baby", or in this case a toddler.  Your DD has a larger issue here.  Narcissistic?  Is the toddler a half-sister?  I only ask because of the large age gap, and maybe she is jealous?  IDK - [b]she sounds super selfish and seems to have no respect for anyone else's things[/b].

OP - you say you have discussed this with her.  What does she say when you confront her about her behavior?[/quote]

I agree with this completely but don't know what to do about it. She is a good kid in many other ways but certainly always prioritizes herself over others. When spoken to about her behavior she says she "didn't know" or has some excuse about why it's okay.  I thought I may have actually gotten through to her until this morning when she took my brush. I'm at a loss here.[/quote]

She says she didn't know because she is inherently selfish and really just doesn't think about anybody else.  I have a sister a bit like this.  Uses other people's things and doesn't think twice about it.  In her case, she doesn't think it's a big deal.   But, OTH, she is also very caring and generous with her things.

Maybe try banning her from anyone else's bedroom unless she is given specific permission to enter.  What are the consequences when she breaks household rules?  I assume you have some rules.  I guess you have to just treat this as breaking a household rule.  I know it seems harsh, and if it was just a couple of times she's done something like this I would let it go, but it seems almost pathological with her.

I agree with another PP about treating her the same way. I wouldn't like to do this either, but sometimes, with people who are like this, the best way to show her how it feels to someone else is to treat her the same way.

Is she thoughtful in any way at all?  If not, I would try to do something to help her cultivate generosity and sharing.  Volunteering?[/quote]

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