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[quote=Anonymous]How important is it to you that your partner fit in with your friends and family? Can it be enough just to get along and connect really well when you're alone together?

33 y/o mom of a toddler here. Divorced father amicably a year ago and started dating someone seriously for first time about two months ago. My ex and I were very good buddies but had no physical/romantic chemistry. My friends and family all loved him, which was a major factor in our staying together longer than we probably should have. Basically I think I married my best friend when I was too young out of fear of intimacy and other issues, so for my next relationship I'm trying not to replicate that dynamic. Since the divorce, I've been focusing a lot more on developing my close friendships and hobbies and my own life and identity, and I'm much happier than I had been in my codependent marriage.

I'm not trying to approach my next relationship with an exact blueprint or anything, but I'm thinking I'd like to focus on more of a romantic connection with someone I love as a friend but isn't my best friend. I don't want new partner to fulfill every role in my life, like he can not be great in certain roles as long as he and I connect romantically. I really want us both to have robust lives as individuals. This new boyfriend and I have amazing chemistry - like nothing I've never experienced before - and connect on spiritual and intellectual levels. We just seem to each be in the right places in our lives for one another right now.

So...one thing holding me back is that he can be a bit grating in social situations...he tends to dominate conversation and be a bit of a know-it-all, which I sort of find endearing when we're alone but makes me uncomfortable when we're in a group. This is making me put my money where my mouth is - am I really OK with a new partner not being ideal on every front, or am I full of it? How important is it for you to love how your partner acts when you're with others?

Thanks![/quote]

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