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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. To explain, my wife gets mad at me all the time for things I say, do, don't do, etc... And every time the anger is drawn out for weeks by her. Meanwhile, I've long since apologized but still have to wait her out for weeks. Its draining and I want to go back to showing her my love, like I usually do, but the motivation is so low for me as I get nothing in return. And I'm not even talking sex. Just appreciation or as small as just kindness in return. And then time goes on and I'm getting grumpy and frustrated, while she's still working it out with herself, and maybe I say, do, don't do, something again to anger her... Vicious cycle that seemingly cannot be won[/quote]

Sometimes when a person is weak, passive, and/or needy I get irrationally angry at them. Maybe something similar is going on with your wife. Make sure your shit is together and work on being an exceptional individual. Show some initiative, exercise, be a leader for the family. If she gets pissy about it, don't be an ass if you are actually doing something wrong, but if you're not, let her anger slide off of you. Don't react to the anger unless she's significantly out of line. If she is out of line, don't whine about it - tell her calmly and sternly that she's out of bounds and she needs to stop. If she doesn't - then leave the house and go do something you enjoy. Do not rely on her for validation -- that can be draining to the other person.

If you do these things, her attitude toward you ought to change. And, if it doesn't - you'll be in better shape to leave her and find somebody who reacts to you in appropriate ways. [/quote]

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