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[quote=Anonymous]1) ask for phone number. Be direct 3rd date, time to start contacting directly.

2) ask what old fashioned means? Does it mean wait till marriage for sex? Does it mean "I expect the woman to do the cooking, cleaning and child care while I work and play golf?" etc. so many different iterations of this.

3) I always preferred splitting or alternating the bill when I was dating because I never felt that I "owed" any man anything, and if I decided I wasn't into someone, at least they didn't feel like they were used. That being said, most men who were really into me at least tried to pay. Once dating is established, I prefer alternating, being taken out or taking someone out, but not splitting (seems so...miserly).

4) if you and he are both gainfully employed, there's no reason why you shouldn't pay, particularly in the early stages in the relationship for all sorts of reasons. (If we women want to be paid equally in the workplace, we should expect equality in other ways). That being said, I would pay more attention to other things--how he treats you, other people, whether he can move to the next stage in the relationship, etc.  If you keep dating you will be able to figure out whether he is, in fact, 'cheap' which is different (poor tipper, unable to ever enjoy the pleasure of treating someone, refusal to spend within means), egalitarian, hesitant, or just economical

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