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[quote=Anonymous]Great idea to invite a friend (but make sure the friend knows that she will pay for events that the others sold cookies to fund).

Also, float the idea with the leader that maybe the girls are a bit too comfortable with their own friends and maybe a little more structured pairing would be better.  It takes just a little effort by the leader b/c it's not as easy as saying "find a partner" -- the leader has to be proactive about making sure girls mix it up.

I think it's really normal development at this age that girls value one on one or smaller sub-groups as friends rather than just enjoying being part of a generally friendly large group.  I actually think that's one reason girls fizzle out of GS around this age -- they are connecting on a more personal level, rather than a group level.   (not saying that is the only reason girls move on.  Also not saying that it is o.k. to exclude others.)

Talk to your DD.  Does she feel actively excluded or is she just kind of getting sidelined b/c she's not anybody's first pick?  What would she want to be different, if anything?  Sometimes we have to learn to be o.k. even if we don't have a bestie with us.  There are definitely things the leader can do to mix it up (i.e. pre-determining who is riding in which car so that no one is left standing by herself, pre-assigning who works at a badge station, working on a journey or badge activity about including everyone, etc.).

Hang in there.  It's just hard being a girl at this age.

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