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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If it's a job at a university, does he have any ability to negotiate for a position there for you? Are there any opportunities at the university that you would be interested in pursuing?

DH is also a prof and I'm the trailing spouse, though by pure luck we ended up in a spot with many opportunities for me. I was able to negotiate a deal with my old company where I work from home most of the time and occassionally go into our nearest office. It's not ideal, but it's working for us for the time being. If that hadn't worked out, I would have likely tried to swing something at the university as part of his negotiating process, with the thought that at least I would be empolyeed and could pursue other things from there (plus my background lends itself to that).

I've recently started trying to figure out what I want to do with myself long-term, which is also complicated by having young kids. When I don't think about it too much, I'm happy with our life, but I do have a fair amount of angst about the career detours his job, and parenting, have caused for me. Like your husband, mine considers me an equal and definitely takes my career into consideration when pursuing opportunities, but the nature of academia leads to some tough decisions and restrictions on what its possible for me to pursue. Good luck![/quote]

Yep, this is exactly our situation. Very specific field he's in, with opportunities fairly few and far between. Many of the opportunities pay very poorly compared to what he's doing now. We'd have to investigate the other opportunities there if/when the time comes, but I'd actually be very interested. I actually started out interested in working in higher ed right out of college! Thanks for the ideas.[/quote]

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