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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Refusing to go is different from not being able.

Refusing to go sounds like this: "No, I'm not going. I don't care! I'm not even going to bother asking for time off because I don't want to go."

Not able to go sounds like this: "I can't go. The boss won't let me take any more weekends off after going to that concert 2 weeks ago. I'll lose my job."

Which sounds more like your son?[/quote]

You know your child's character better than we do, so which of these sounds more likely to you? If it's the latter, then accept that he would be there if he could and don't hold it against him. If it's the former, well, that's a bigger issue of character beyond just this funeral. Keep in mind, however, that he's only 21, and likely still has a bit of maturing to do. Ten years from now, he might feel differently about things.

As for what you can do, not much. He's an adult now, you can't exactly ground him and take away his Xbox. All you can do is adjust your expectations of him based on what you know of her character and obligations.[/quote]

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