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[quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry, OP. My experience is not exactly the same as yours, but I can share some strategies that have helped me get through bad stretches of time to a place where I feel more joyful, confident, and competent:

#1 - Fake it 'til you make it
Don't feel happy? Pretend you do, especially around your kids (even older ones will hardly notice your acting skills). It's a good thing to do because your mood weighs heavily in their lives. Don't want to have sex? Do it anyway. It's almost always good once you get into it, right? It doesn't have to be fancy or a big production--it's just sex and it will make you feel good. Eat vegetables or a salad in front of your kids every day, even if you don't want to. It's so much more peaceful to model the behavior you'd like to see in your children than constantly harping on them (which they tune out anyway). There'll be plenty of time to consume only chocolate and beer for dinner if you want once they go to college. Feeling a bit shaky about that presentation? Believe in yourself and take the time you need to say what you want to say clearly.

#2 - Move your body
Bummed about not being able to run as far or bike as fast as you used to? Stop keeping track of things like distance and time. Just move, every day. If you have a dog, go for walks. If you don't, offer to walk someone else's. Try yoga. It took me *years* to change my opinion about yoga, and truly if I can do it ANYBODY can do it. At the very least, it's a great way to stay fit for free in the comfort of your own home (there are some great apps!). At most, it can help change your outlook, which is what you might be seeking now.

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