Reply to Husband speaks harshly to son

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Husband speaks harshly to son"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your job as parents is to nurture a strong, confident, and constructive human being. When your child behaves inappropriately - takes too many pieces of bacon - then your response is designed to nurture constructive future behavior.

Demeaning comments don't achieve positive outcomes. You know it, and your husband knows it. If your son's a people pleaser, he's especially susceptible to being negatively influenced by demeaning comments. What's more, since people pleasers are eager to please, their behavior's usually easy to modify with comments about how their behavior affects others.

So the demeaning comments aren't about your son. They're about your husband. He's making them because they satisfy him, not because your son needs to hear them.[/quote]

The bacon incident is so obviously not about bacon.  It's about your husband having an outburst.  If your DH really cared about bacon, he would just say "Larlo, I want some bacon too, so save me one of those pieces please."

And in 20 years, the only tools Larlo will have for getting along with women, and with his own children, will be demeaning and screaming at them.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics