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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP Here - I completely understand your perspective, but really cooking isn't something DH wants to accomplish (he doesn't try and has made it clear it's not something he wants to try.). When he is responsible for dinner he runs out and picks up something (which I fully appreciate and tell him so). I don't micromanage him at all. When DD is doing something with him I don't interject, don't correct, just smile and encourage. Having a child was outside his comfort zone. He loves DD a great deal, I don't question that at all, nor do I question his skills as a father, but our relationship has deteriorated. [/quote]

I get that- plus you love to cook.  I'm sure I'm projecting my shit into your story.  Last night my wife was running late, asked me to "whip something up" for dinner.  I pick up pork steaks, cauliflower, augraten potatos (all on sale, thank you) and have a pretty nice dinner on the table when she and DD get home....and she was disappointed in my choice because she was planning on making pork chops tonight and I messed up her weekly menu.

Perhaps that's why I singled out that sentence.

I also understand what you mean about both initiating sex but ultimately, its just not worth the trouble to try.

The only suggestion I'd make- and I'm far from an expert- is to continue talking with him.  We tend to avoid talking because it means we won't fight.  But it also doesn't mean that we're not moving from "not unhappy" into "happy".  It won't get any better without hard work from both of you.  At least that's been the case with us.  [/quote]

OP Here - Completely understood. We are normally pretty good communicators, but when things build is when we get more and more distant/silent, that's when we have a blow up.

I asked him again today to try counseling with me, but I think I will start going myself even if he doesn't want to go. [/quote]

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