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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP Here - If we want something edible for dinner no. I love to cook, I would rather DH play with her while I cook or play with her after dinner.[/quote]

DH here.  I'm in a similar marriage and just want to give a guy's perspective on something you said.  When I read the sentence above- it looks like [i]perhaps[/i] he can try his best at something and it still won't be good enough.  So what's the point of trying at all?!?  By no means am I saying the problems are all your fault, just like my own dissatisfying marriage.  But if/when your husband tries to help with something outside his comfort zone- thank him for the effort even if the grilled cheese is burned and the tomato soup is from a can and scalded.  Thank him for doing the laundry, don't point out that he put something in the dryer that should air dry.

But you're not alone OP.  Its a vicious cycle where anger, resentment, and disappointment feed off themselves.  I know that personally I've found myself focusing on the stuff that reinforces existing negative thoughts and attitudes.  So I can rationalize one of those "fuck it, why bother?" days that almost certainly contributes to my wife's negative outlook on things.

It sucks. [/quote]

OP Here - I completely understand your perspective, but really cooking isn't something DH wants to accomplish (he doesn't try and has made it clear it's not something he wants to try.). When he is responsible for dinner he runs out and picks up something (which I fully appreciate and tell him so). I don't micromanage him at all. When DD is doing something with him I don't interject, don't correct, just smile and encourage. Having a child was outside his comfort zone. He loves DD a great deal, I don't question that at all, nor do I question his skills as a father, but our relationship has deteriorated. [/quote]

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