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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP Here - If we want something edible for dinner no. I love to cook, I would rather DH play with her while I cook or play with her after dinner.[/quote]

DH here.  I'm in a similar marriage and just want to give a guy's perspective on something you said.  When I read the sentence above- it looks like [i]perhaps[/i] he can try his best at something and it still won't be good enough.  So what's the point of trying at all?!?  By no means am I saying the problems are all your fault, just like my own dissatisfying marriage.  But if/when your husband tries to help with something outside his comfort zone- thank him for the effort even if the grilled cheese is burned and the tomato soup is from a can and scalded.  Thank him for doing the laundry, don't point out that he put something in the dryer that should air dry.

But you're not alone OP.  Its a vicious cycle where anger, resentment, and disappointment feed off themselves.  I know that personally I've found myself focusing on the stuff that reinforces existing negative thoughts and attitudes.  So I can rationalize one of those "fuck it, why bother?" days that almost certainly contributes to my wife's negative outlook on things.

It sucks. [/quote]

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