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[quote=Anonymous]I feel like it's been happening for a few years now. There also seems to be a bitterness that is growing within each of us. I feel like DH wants me to work a full-time job and do everything around the house. I already care for DD 90% of the time, cook all the meals (or plan to grab takeout and what not), clean up, etc. His day is getup around 6:15, get breakfast, watch TV, get dressed, go to work and come home around 5:30-6pm. I get DD up, dressed, fed and to daycare. I then work 8-8.5 hours, pickup DD, make dinner, play with DD, and feed the family. I play with DD after dinner, get her ready for bed and into bed. DH get's on his laptop, cell phone, etc and if I mention something he says "she's happy playing with you".

I'm at a loss. I try to have a discussion with him about spending more time with DD, but he counters back with recent "days" he's spent with her. He's a fed and had off M/T this week as did DD, so he watched her most of the day, however I still spent about 3 hours watching her, put her down for her nap, fed her, etc. He also wanted me to go back to work after having DD, so of course out of frustration last night I just asked if he wanted me to do everything then I would quit my job.

There is a lot more history than that, he's selfish like his parents, puts work as his top priority 90% of the time (not normally accessible during the day, thankfully there haven't been any emergencies), literally remembers about 10% of what I tell him (which means he asks me the same exact question 5 and 6 times or doesn't remember that as he was walking up the stairs I asked him if he could grab DD's blanket when he came back down - that happens multiple times a week)...

We've had conversations about all this, too many to count. It's always the same, he feels bad, promises to make a change, but it never happens. When he's with DD he's a great dad, I don't worry about her or anything, but I'm just not happy with how things are. I don't think DH is completely happy either, it's more like we're both just existing because it's easier. I've brought up marriage counseling but DH is resistant. He feels like that means we're about to get divorced but I think it would help us learn better ways to communicate. Thoughts? [/quote]

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