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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DD, age 3, WILL NOT, over her dead body, put on anything she deems "for girls," including girl's underpants. She rejects anything that might be a "girl's color," let alone skirts or, God forbid, dresses. This also extends to anything she perceives to be girl-y, including rainbows, unicorns, butterflies, and so on. Call her princess and she freaks the eff out. Instead, she loves dinosaurs, superheroes, bugs and anything reptile (she has about a zillion stuffed dinosaurs, but she cares for them the way many kids do with dolls--feeding them, dressing them, tucking them into bed, etc.). She talks about wanting to be a boy when she grows up, and often says she is "pretending to be a boy." When I ask her what it means to her to be a boy when she grows up, she says she wants to pee standing up.  :wink:

Yes, she has an older brother (age 5), and she worships him. Anything he says or does is cool to her, and most of her life she's tagged along with him and his friends. For whatever reason, we didn't have much off a girls' peer group when she was younger, and even now that she's in preschool she generally prefers playing with boys, though she has friends who are girls, too.

At our last pediatrician's appointment, the doctor asked us if we'd be o.k. if she stays like this [b](i.e., is trans)[/b], and yes, we would be. But it wouldn't be our first choice for her, of course, and I do mourn a little over not getting to have a "girl" the way most parents do. For those of you who've had girls like this, did they outgrow it? If they didn't, when did you know?

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Who said that she "is trans"? Did you? Did the pediatrician?

She says that she is pretending to be a boy. She likes stuffed dinosaurs. She plays with boys. She doesn't like dresses, unicorns, or butterflies. That doesn't make her "trans". That makes her a three-year-old girl who pretends to be a boy, likes stuffed dinosaurs, plays with boys, and doesn't like dresses, unicorns, or butterflies.

Here is an article about a five-year-old transgender boy (i.e., a child who was biologically a girl but identified as a boy) that you might find interesting: http://www.washingtonpost.com/local/transgender-at-five/2012/05/19/gIQABfFkbU_story.html

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Agree with this completely.  I was an inveterate tomboy as a child, much like yours.  I'm still very much a woman, still don't like to wear dresses, and am now happily married with kids.  Please hold off on labeling your daughter.  And dont' push too hard, or she'll feel your disapproval more strongly than your love.[/quote]

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