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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PVED is an online forum/resource for parents via egg donation.

My best support network came from Fertile Thoughts - I found a great community of people there cycling at the same time as me.  It was tremendously helpful.

Re what I found useful, I didn't do any significant reading or research (beyond the medical stuff) - I mostly just needed people to talk to anonymously (since we had differing levels of openness with friends and family throughout the process.)  I needed a place to talk about my worries or regrets, beyond just perpetually burdening my husband - so the online community was my best resource.

Other than that, DE worked really well for us and it was easy compared to the endless IVF cycles we had tried in vain.  So that part was a relief, and dealing with a normal pregnancy after all we'd been through was kind of a treat.

The toughest part, for us, was figuring out how open to be about DE, and how soon.  Once we got through that there really hasn't been much else that is DE specific.  Occasionally I still have a pang or two when I look at one of my kids (twins) and see a stranger's features, but most of the time I don't even think about it.

Good luck!!![/quote]

Which boards did you find to be helpful at fertile thoughts? I agree that online communities are really helpful, esp since the issue is so specific and I'm an introvert. I'm like you...I don't want to read/invest too much in case it doesn't wind up working but I'd still like to feel informed.

Did you do family counseling when you were cycling? Or at what point did you think counselig was the most helpful/effective? We are also juggling who gets to know. It's a tough call bc I don't believe that kids are equipped to understand donor eggs at a super young age and i don't want them conflating it with adoption. Any advice in this area? I'm glad it seems like you're happy with your decision overall. Best to you and yours![/quote]

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