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[quote=Anonymous]With the recent topics on slut shaming, a few things that have happened around our house got me thinking. And I'm curious about other people's thoughts. 
My 16 yo stepson and 6 year old daughter go to the same school. The other day, my DSS came down to school dressed, not that unusually, in jeans with a few holes in them and an old t-shirt with some writing on the front. My husband rarely notices, but this time he did and asked him to change the shirt. My DSS said that no one at school cares about the dress code for boys, only for girls. So, I have no way of knowing if this is true, but its certainly an impression that DSS has.

Later that week, I was in the library with my daughter, when there was an after school meeting for 11th grade. It was about dress code enforcement. The teacher must have spent a good five minutes detailing all the girl's infractions, including discussing thongs, butt cheeks, and how uncomfortable certain outfits were making teachers. She then spent 30 seconds saying that the guys needed to stop wearing shirts with writing and pictures. It was very apparent that the girl's, sexuality based, offenses were serious, and the boys were just an afterthought.

Now, I know the dress code at the school. There is nothing about gender in the code itself, but, practically, the girls tend to have infractions that have to do with skirt/short length, tightness, and lack of sleeves. The boys tend to have the clothes with holes and the shirts with letters and graphics. And, when I'm at the school, there is as least as many infractions occurring from the boys as from the girls.

I only have two data points, but I was so uncomfortable with how the girl's infractions seemed to be considered much more serious than the boys infractions.

Im all for a dress code. But, it should be about appropriate clothes for school. If its against the code, it should all be against the code equally. It was just very uncomfortable and felt like the girls and sexuality were really be emphasized and punished in an inequitable manner.[/quote]

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