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[quote=Anonymous]MIL lies all the time. She likes to portray herself as either a victim or a hero in her stories. I think that's a way for her to get attention or security. She's not delusional because multiple instances showed she knew she was lying.

Here are just a few stories she created.

One story was how her financial advisor changed the beneficiaries of her investments accounts to the financial adviser himself and tried to con her money. She told this story a few years ago.  She's still using the same financial advisor today, which indicates she knows that story wasn't true.

Another story was how her sister and her OBGYN BIL locked her up in a dark room in their estate home for a whole month and did "unspeakable" things to her before she was married. DH told me that MIL and FIL often left DH and DH's sister at their aunt's home and care without parental presence for weeks in their summer vacation when they grew up so that they could have fun on their aunt's property. If the kidnapping thing truly happened, who would trust the offenders with their kids?

MIL graduated from a small college with an education degree but told everyone including FIL and all her children that she graduated from UVA's XYZ school. This false information was even included in her wedding announcement.

When MIL had a surgery in a hospital, FIL went to visit her with us.  She told us she was abused by a fellow patient. Several years later, the story changed to she was abused by the doctor and nurses. And another few years later, she told me during a conversation when DH was't around that she was abused by my FIL during the hospital visit. She forgot I visited her with DH and FIL and I was there the whole time. FIL never abused her.

She also told DH that SIL tried to steal the living will and revise it. We later found out she's told SIL similar stories about DH. SIL said to DH it seems MIL had tried her best to make family members hate each other except for herself.

I suspect MIL has a serious personality disorder. It's hard to be around her because of her pathological lying. If you confront her with her lies, she'll start yelling and screaming. FIL argued with her once. An hour later, cops showed up and said she reported abuse by my FIL.  Five other relatives happened to be there and none said they witnessed any abuse except for verbal argument. The cops nonetheless requested FIL to leave the house so that MIL and FIL can be separated for the night.

MIL seems to be nice to our kids and sends them gifts for their birthdays and Christmas. My children seem to like her too. Actually, if you don't know her well, she can appear to be a nice and charming lady. But it makes me nervous every time when I think about visiting her.[/quote]

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