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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So wait, your wife works and does all of the house work, the "physical stuff" as you say and wants to have a career and you think she's supposed to just stop working because you guys decided to have kids?

Can you be the stay at home parent?

Put up or shut up...[/quote]

I didn't say that she had to stay at home.  But at least find a job that allows her to raise her kid as well.

And we can in fact maintain our current lifestyle based on one income and I have been willing to either stay at home or go to another job with less income.

This isn't just a matter of one doing more than the other.  Our first child had to go to the NICU shortly after being born because she refused to feed him.  Once there she got no sympathy from any of the nurses and was forced to feed the kid.  Afterwards when it's an issue and she tried to get sympathy from some of her friends none of them could relate to her.

There would be several days when our first child was born, where she would never see him awake.  Because she got home too late.

And there were times where I'd have difficulties in taking care of our first kid due to back spasms or a high fever and she'd still come home late everynight and it was just me watching him.

The gym is a big deal to me as well.  But I even adjusted my schedule a bit to account for it when going to daycare early affected my kid and the daycare provider mentioned it.

The physical things are easily replaceable.  As I mentioned to my wife, I can easily pay someone to do any of the physical things.  It's the emotional things that are important in relationships and raising kids.

Anyways thinking about it, I have a plan that I'll probably move forward with.  It breaks my heart for my kids but it's for the best.[/quote]

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