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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You need to know the pwd on the phone now.  That's crazy.[/quote]

I agree but your narrow view of this is what's really crazy.

Its not about controlling a 12 year old.  Its about having a close relationship where she can come to you and tell you about this boy she likes.  Where you can have frank and explicit discussions about the physical and emotional consequences of sex.  Foster a relationship where she feels safe and comfortable enough to tell you about the pressure she feels from peers and possibly/probably from her boyfriend.  Talk about birth control.  Talk about your values.  Meet the boy.  Ask if his parents know.  Ask if any of her friends have boyfriends.  But don't treat this like the Spanish Inquisition.  (nobody expects the Spanish Inquisition...)  It will be awkward, it will be uncomfortable- but start this lifelong conversation with your daughter now.  Simply forbidding it and pretending this part of her life doesn't exist is a recipe for disaster.  You cannot simply WISH this away.

That password is pretty low on the list of things OP needs to focus on.[/quote]

I'm not suggesting you forbid it. But a 12 year old girl can and should have many other activities going on in her life that take precedence over a boyfriend. I believe it is that kind of thing that you foster. A "frank and explicit discussion" about sex is also premature at this age.[/quote]

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