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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here: so, what do you do?
just keep telling your kid to be kind?
or start actively avoiding the mean girls?

i was the totally excluded kid, so i only know that role.[/quote]

My daughter is 14 and I want to apologize for being overly snarky.  We talk about behaviors, not really focusing on the person.  I certainly wouldn't advise calling the girl an insufferable little bitch but when she's excluding girls from the group, I'd ask some probing questions, say that I disagree with how she's acting, say what I think is the right way, and just discuss my values.  If she's really being mean, I'd point out that I think she's being mean and don't want my daughter to act like that.  Ask your daughter how the other kids felt when treated this way.  Ask your daughter if SHE likes the other kid and try to separate her feelings from the little ringleader.

On the other hand, I don't think kids need to be friends with everyone.  If your daughter just doesn't like somebody, its totally fine to not have that person in her circle of friends.  But that doesn't sound like what you're describing.  What you're describing sounds like the "cool kids clique".  You knew these kids in high school and you're probably seeing one develop in kindergarten.

In short, its just starting.  We try to focus on our kids making decisions and developing friendships on their own and not relying on other people to define themselves. [/quote]

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