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[quote=Anonymous]I haven't been to many weddings in my life but the few I've been invited to are for relatives I couldn't pick out in a crowd. Most recently, DH and I were invited to the wedding of a cousin I don't know well at all. We're also about 10 years apart. If our parents had put in more effort when we were younger, we'd probably be closer but at this point, I don't see us being friendly, especially since we live on opposite coasts. My mother and her father are cousins and after years of coming up with excuses as to why we never saw them for anything other than funerals (seriously, one of the last times I saw this cousin was at a funeral), now we're expected to go out of our way to cultivate ties with them. Now, all of a sudden, my mother is all about the importance of family and how [b]I[/b] should put in the effort and come to this wedding, which will cost a pretty penny. In a way, it wouldn't be awful to go as it's a destination wedding in a nice place and there will be a few relatives there I know and enjoy my time with. Still, I don't know if it's pointless and will just be a lot of money spent making other people happy. I was even invited to the bridal shower which to me, makes no sense as I thought those are for the bride to be with the people closest to her. I'd feel really weird showing up with a gift and watching her open a gift from a stranger, basically. I'm being pressured to send a gift because it's "the right thing to do." She's not controlling the guest list, though-- it's her mother and grandmother. Honestly, if I were her, I wouldn't want me there. I wouldn't want me traveling to be there. I wouldn't want me spending $50 on a gift for someone I'm not close to. But that's just me.

For those who have attended such weddings, are you glad you went? Was it more about a good time for you than getting to know cousin so and so?  [/quote]

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