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Dear OP,

You have a husband problem, not a MIL problem. You husband *should* realize that his primary duty is now to his nuclear family, you and your son, and not his mother. The only reason this woman has continued to behave this way is that she has been enabled! I don't often recommend counseling but this time if he is willing, you should definitely go together to a therapist to help your husband draw boundaries with his mother. It will take years probably, unless you decide to divorce first. Don't quit your job!

Immediately, I would tell your husband this is the LAST STRAW. That you are incredibly unhappy with his inability to support you and see that his mother has used you outrageously.
And most importantly, tell him that you will not EVER lift a finger for this woman. "Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me."

Do not cry or get emotional. Husbands usually have difficulty dealing with that. Stay very calm and authoritative. Announce your rules to deal with your MIL and abide by them. You also get a say in whether your ILs are invited to YOUR house or not. If she misbehaves, you can tell your husband that she is not welcome anymore. Your MIL will soon see that you are not the doormat she thought you were, and will pressure your husband to side with her. Stay strong, you are in the right.

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