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[quote=Anonymous]We were in a state of "trauma" when we went. and our counselor focused on just, me not cutting my DH's balls off when he went to sleep.  Our therapist was great, but I've seen others that were a bad fit and I echo PPs comments that you need to find the right person for the job.

What I find great about our therapist (in retrospect) was that he really tried to redirect the conversation back to what was good about our relationship - he continually talked about "reconnecting" what would that take?  How do we flesh out the crap and then look at it and figure out what we want to do moving forward.  He was so good that I think if we had ended up divorcing, it would have made it much more amicable.  My husband didn't want to talk, and it was tough for him at first, but the therapist found a way to talk about the not talking, sort of like cracking a nut.

If you don't feel like it's helping - try someone else, and history is important but so is being a grown-up and owning your crap today - and that's what we found useful.  He sort of gave us a framework of how to have a productive conversation so that now, we do just go to dinner or find a private moment to confer and even though we don't go to therapy any longer, we know how to communicate much better. [/quote]

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