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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a SAHM to a toddler.  My husband works 60-70 hour weeks plus 2-3 weekends per month.  We have no local family and don't have any childcare help.  I'm interested to know how other SAHMs balance time to themselves versus spouse's time to himself.  How do you handle childcare on the weekends?  How many hours per week do you get to yourself versus your spouse?

Recently my husband said that he is not getting enough alone time and wants more.  I'm trying to figure out how he can get more alone time, balanced with my need for some time for myself too.  Since we have no family help we never get a break, and we have not had a date night since our son was born.  We are open to hiring help (a mother's helper) but I have been looking for someone for a few weeks and can't find anyone who is willing to work the hours we need.

Here is our schedule:

5:30 am: husband leaves for office.  I watch our child from wakeup until my husband comes home from work (6 pm normal days, two days per week he comes home after bedtime).  My husband takes over childcare when he walks in the door if our son is still up.  During that time that husband is watching our son, I usually do household chores (since I can't get much done during the day).  One weeknight per week I go out and do errands after our son is in bed (from about 7 pm-midnight).

On weekends, my husband gets to sleep in both days, and I watch our son until 3 pm.  Then I get the rest of the afternoon/evening to myself (usually I go out with friends while husband stays home and watches our son).

So basically the time I get for myself is one hour before bedtime, a few hours after bedtime (I stay up until 12:30 am so I can get more time to myself), and half the days on the weekend.

Husband says he needs more time to himself.  He gets one hour after bedtime (husband goes to bed at 9:30).  And he gets to sleep in both weekend days and has until 3 pm for himself.  He also does a sport twice a week, in the evenings.

The only couple time we have together is we watch TV together for one hour after our son's bedtime on weeknights.  But I like to go out and my husband prefers to stay in, so on the weekends I like to go out with friends whenever I can.

Does anyone have any suggestions for us?

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Seems like he should get one weekend day to himself.  Otherwise he only get time alone when he's asleep.  You need to schedule time to do errands with your child and do all of the housework during the day.[/quote]

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