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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have always had this rule during the school year.  Lately she is really upset about it.  She says she just "wants to be normal".  She says she is the only one.  She cried herself to sleep about it 2 nights ago.

She has daily homework and gets it done without problems.  She plays soccer 3 nights a week.  She has lots of screen time Friday-Sunday.

She says we baby her and that our rules are abnormal.  She still sits in the back seat, and is outraged about that too.  She also has a "in bed by 8:45, lights out by 9pm" bedtime.  She says this is also crazy.  She has to get up at 6:15 for school start time of 7:30 so I worry about her getting enough rest.

Also, my hope is that if she doesn't have access to screens, she'll read.  She used to be a voracious reader, but now there are so many things competing for her time.  I feel she has stopped reading for pleasure and I worry that her vocaulary will not develop.

Is no screens M-Th excessively strict?

I do notice that virtually all of her classmates and soccer teammates sit in the front seat.  I think she is actually the only one who sits in the back seat still.  She weighs 80 pounds.

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Yes, you're being unreasonably strict about screen-time. As long as she's getting her work done, and whatnot, that's unnecessarily restrictive and abnormal. Most kids these days are texting each other by age 11 now. I assume she's in sixth grade? You are quite literally making her excluded from what has become a very important part of social development for children/tweens of this generation.

My 11 yo also sits in the front seat, but she's tall and heavier than yours (she's about 5'6" and weighs about 103). She does not sit in the front seat for highway driving, however.

The only thing I'm with you on is bedtime. Yours is precisely the same as ours, and ours doesn't push it. We even enforce it generally on the weekend (although we do allow exceptions).

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