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[quote=Anonymous]YES, these  red flags mean you should break it off.

Why does it matter whether he's a narcissist or desperate? Either way, you won't change him, and it's not your job to.

Just so you're clear, I had two serious relationships in my life (I married the second one), and in neither one did the boyfriend EVER call me any names. I am confused as to why you are still in this relationship after the very first instance of a problem - I could see letting the exclusivity talk on the first date slide, although that would have been my first warning sign - but texting/calling so much? No bueno.

When I disagree with my husband, even back when he was "just" my boyfriend, if things got heated he would say "I need to take a break from this because I'm getting too upset and don't want to regret anything I say to you," and then he'd walk off to go do something - cook dinner, walk the dog, go work out, whatever - before calming down and coming back to talk it through.

He has never once tried to control where I went or who I spoke with. That is a HUGE red flag, to the point that I'd break up with someone if they did that even ONCE.  If I was in a less than safe area, he'd ask me to call when I was home safe or ask if he could accompany me or pick me up, but he always respects whatever my decision is.

Dump this guy. Tonight. [/quote]

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