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[quote=Anonymous]He is 29, very accomplished, great career, stable income, and good looking. He is very sweet, romantic, and a gentleman. I have been dating him for 5 months with new behavior emerging.

We met online and he had been single for 2 years. He came on a little strong, initiating a lot of texts and calls. We sometimes would talk for hours; I enjoyed it. We decided to meet although he talked about meeting for a series of dates incase the first didn't go well; kind of insecure, maybe. We met after two weeks of talking and hit it off. He initiates " the talk"  to be exclusive on the first date. We take the next few moths enjoying getting to know each other. He still comes on heavy with constant text/calls and wanting to see me. Sex is beyond amazing:).

He suddenly takes a turn 4 months in. I start talking about serious future matters and we don't see eye to eye on all of them. He tries to force my hand. He then goes on between a state of trying to change my mind to shutting me out when i disagree. He has a very clear picture of who I should be. He becomes controlling with regards of who I talk to and where I go. When I disagree on a matter, he shuts me out and then comes back like that scene never happened. I looked up narcissist and he has used the very same lines they use. He still has his moments of sweetness in between all this. He gets upset when I disagree and sometimes calls me ugly names. When apologizing he doesn't take responsibility. It's always " I am sorry you feel" or a but in there. He is great at playing the victim.

I won't divulge all details but I am struggling to determine what he is. Is he ultra critical because he is desperate about settling down already? Is he a narcissist who only appears to want the things I want and his true colors are emerging? Do narcissists change? I feel like I'm going crazy. Last but not least, are these red flag indicators to break it off?
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