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[quote=Anonymous]I overheard DW speaking with her BFF about DW's recent and rather intense fantasy about an OM. Apparently, this has been going on for months and to hear DW tell it to BFF the fantasy has been "overwhelming" at times, faded recently, but is still there lurking strongly in the background.  Mercifully I was spared the details of what exactly was going on in the fantasy between DW and OM as DW was reaching out to BFF for help managing what's going on in DW"s mind and not to gossip over the juicy bits (or, at least, not in that conversation).

If this was a movie or sports star I would ignore it as harmless fantasizing, but it's about someone she knows. DW is not having an affair with OM, or at least she told BFF that, but she has apparently thought about "going beyond the fantasy" occasionally. That is obviously hurtful and worrisome, but it sounded like DW was determined not to go there.  Also, I don't think she would be able to get away with it (for long) if she wanted to go forward... if OM was local.

But, OM lives elsewhere, she has cause to interact with him professionally when she overnights there for work (3 hour drive away).  So, hotel rendezvous would be a distinct possibility and an "oh, I saw OM the other day" would be normal course of dealings; that is, not suspicious absent overhearing this conversation.  OTOH he's married with young kids and for all I know not at all interested (it didn't come up with BFF).

So, I believe it that DW has not moved past the fantasy stage and is determined not to, but the question remains, do I confront her with this? Taking into account it was a conversation I was not supposed to hear? Is it none of my business if it's all inside her (and now my) head?  What good could come out of a confrontation?  Maybe I should reach out to BFF?

It's kind of eating me up inside.[/quote]

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