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Dad, I have read your posts before and know that you and your spouse have really tried hard to support your son.  While I usually post as the parent of a young adult with a cognitive disability who is working part-time. resides with us and will always need some direct support in  her life, I am posting as the parent of a high performing typical daughter who went off to a top tier college and by her second year we learned we, too, had sent a "12 year old" in terms of emotional and at time development IQ in terms of just dealing with life.  Twice we tried to support her to help her manage her issues with severe lack of sleep, anxiety and depression at time, but to no avail.  She pulled out sophomore year and then again at Thanksgiving her senior year.  In her case it was not academic performance, but just managing other aspects of her life.  So as it relates to your situation:

- [b]Try as you might to keep DS and his problems out of the direct family setting, you are probably only fooling yourselves as this is a short-term scenario.
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- [b] From all of your previous and this post, your son has a serious sleep issue that needs to be evaluated and defined.  Until this is done spending any more money on interventions or college courses is a waste of resources.   ([/b]1) For your information there is a quick overnight "pulse ox" test which can be done with one simply putting a couple of electrodes on and a clip on one's finger.  This will record to some degree of accuracy one oxygen intake over the night.  From this test, a doctor can get an indication of whether a full sleep study is warranted.  If you could get this done first at home, then you would have a direction on this.  (2)You really do need to set up a sleep study ASAP back at home where probably you will have to go to the actual overnight sleep study as I did with my younger daughter to be sure that DS cooperates and gets the most out of it he can.  There may well be a question of whether he needs to be off all his meds or some of them to get a worthwhile assessment.  Something is wrong either physically or psychologically making him want to sleep so much.

- [b]Is there any way to get a second opinion on the medications that your son is on in terms of interactions and side effects to evaluate whether it might be worth it to try a different mix? If he remains on campus, it is key to find him a therapist out there who can follow him[b]  It took a while, but team working closely together of psychologist and psychiatrist finally came up with a mix that worked for her.

- To be very truthful, right now DS is functioning in daily life skills and ability to work in any job setting well below the range of our daughter with an IQ of 55 and a moderate disability label.  Having him away at college is only a "time and place holder" before he will be back in your home and entangling all the members of your family in is drama once again as we well know can happen.  We also have a middle daughter who often was caught between the needs of the other two.   Can he get a medical reason for dropping courses this semester and you get any sort of a prorated refund?  I ask this because if he has an OK GPA, why jeopardize that with a sudden downturn to Cs and Ds.  
Can you consider bringing him back to the area and using the resources of a community college until he can really get his mental health status balanced and learn to function n terms of daily living skills?  Then he could transfer back or to another four year school.

I do know it is very, very sad to see a young adult with potential in so much turmoil despite your best efforts, and I do understand how it can monoplize the family dynamics, exhaust you and threaten financial resources.   But you would want to avoid a young adult committing herself to a hospital when things finally spun so far out of control for her.[/quote]

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