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[quote=Anonymous]I need honest DCUM feedback here because im in deep relationship shit...

I moved in with my boyfriend if 2 1/2 years last May and I have no words for the massive change in his behavior. He was unhappy with his job in information technology so I told him to look for a different job. I stupidly told him to quit and look for another job and id carry the bills until he found something new. Im fucked because he ran with it...he quit his job immediately in September and since then has been working seasonal IT jobs. Im freaking paying all the bills. When I tell him im not paying his bills anymore he tries to guilt trip me and minimize his unemployment. He spends his time apparently job searching and playing guitar, video games, planning weekly role playing game get togethers with his odd friends. Dude spent two months making his Halloween costume instead of job searching.WTF?!?  I didnt know this side of him exited until I moved in with him. I thought his geek interests were quirky and odd before I moved in with him but damn...its ALL he talks about. Hes not swinging into action to get stable employment. He tells ne im overreacting and that hes "doing all he can" to find work...he cant make employers hire him.  He had a fulltime job the entire time we've been together...until I moved in with him.

I get that im in a fucked up situation here. But im locked into a lease with this guy, live several hours from my family and am now in debt. I dont know what the fuck to do to get out. He sleeps during the day. He also just took out a loan to finish his degree...but when I ask how school is going he tells me im being intrusive.

I didn't know this side of him until now. I knew he had some geeky interests but FFS, its all he talks about. I knew he wasn't the most responsible guy but I didn't think he was THIS MASSIVELY IRRESPONSIBLE. Strange thong is that hes VERY bright and at least in high school (hes 25 now) he was pretty driven...graduated near top of his class, offered several scholarships, never missed school. He dropped out of the first and second colleges he went to. Said he was sent a letter by his university telling him mot to come back.  He also made some "joking" remark that creeper me the f/&( out a couple weeks ago "I had a dream the other night that I chopped you up and stuck you in a suitcase...hahaha"

I feel like I cant get out...i feel literally trapped...help...what the fuck do I do?

Wtf is wrong with this guy and how the duck to I get out of here? Im employed, stuck in a lease until July, am going further into debt and won't have good credit to get my own place...if I stop paying his bills (ie rent, utilities) my credit gets ruined even more. No one in his little circle of odd friends and no one in his family seems to think this is odd. I see a therapist and the therapist says hes a dreamer...its all part of having A DHD (He was dx with. It as a kid but takes no meds for it). My relationship with my parents is strained...

WTF do I do?[/quote]

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