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[quote=Anonymous]Hi everyone.  I am very close with my sister - speak almost every day - and my niece and nephew have been close in my life since their birth.  They live out of state, so I don't see them very often, but we are are a close family overall.  In the scheme of families, we are all great together.  Very lucky.  Anyway, my niece and nephew are very into sports and great athletes.  When picking a wedding date (first wedding at age 40), we avoided my niece's conflicts with some big sporting events, but my sister failed to look at my nephew's schedule.  She brain farted that he had an important high school soccer tournament the weekend of the date that we were saying was a possible choice.  So we picked that date, thinking we were clear of things like this, and then a few weeks later (post communicating the date out and printing invitations etc.) my sister says I made a mistake and we have a problem.  She says my nephew can't come because of this soccer tournament.  Not sure how that all went down - assuming he was crushed at missing the tournament (his first as a freshman on the high school varsity team) and that my sister chose not to say sorry but you now have a wedding.

Thoughts?  My emotional reaction is disappointment.  My intellectual reaction is who misses (or allows a kid to miss) a close family member's wedding for a damn sporting event, unless you are an Olympian.  I don't put anything on a 14-yr old kid.  But am really surprised at my sister's choice.  I really feel for the situation - a clear inadvertent mess up by the parent (she feels horrible about it) and a kid probably so very upset about it - but cannot believe the choice.  It seems the wrong value - a sporting event the kid will never remember over an important family event.  But maybe I just don't get it.  Sucky situation all around.  Even if my nephew now comes, that's not ideal.  Ugh.

Wanted to get a sanity check from strangers.  Thanks![/quote]

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