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[quote=Anonymous]LIVID here.  Here is the update.  My husband and I don't have children.  After going through 9 rounds of IVF we were done.  I had 4 rounds with my own eggs and then I did 5 rounds of DE.  I found out late in the process that I have immune issues.  I saw Braverman in NY and was treated for the immune issues with the last round but it didn't take.  We had the home study to begin the adoption process but found that we don't have the emotional energy to go through another gut wrenching process.  In addition, at this point we are almost 7 years older, which makes a big difference.  Both of us would be close to 50 by the time that we adopted a child.  When I got pregnant I was just shy of my 40th birthday and my husband was just 42.  We want to be able to retire at some point and were ok with sending a kid to college and retiring just after they graduated, but now we would be close to 70 when the child left the nest.   We are both very healthy, eat right, exercise daily blah blah, but I'm still not sure that is fair to a child.

I still mourn the loss of what I won't have.  I think about missing the milestones and not having a relationship with a child long term.  However, looking at things now and seeing my friends (who have started way earlier) I'm not so sad about missing the day-to-day parenting.  Even though we still generally have lots of energy, looking in from the outside at the day to day stuff feels more exhausting to me than it did 7 years ago.

For now, I'm still trying to figure out how to "leave my legacy."  I am a very fortunate person.  I have an education, loving parents and family, great friends, and the best husband in the world.  I want to give back in some way.  I'm still trying to figure out how to do it.  I volunteer for all kinds of causes but I'm thinking about getting more deeply involved in one.  I have some ideas about getting involved and becoming a sex/repro rights educator for at risk youth or something else in the repro rights arena.  My husband and I are also big animal lovers so we may get more involved with a rescue organization beyond just adopting pets from them.

Thanks all of you for your support.  It is really lovely and I have appreciated it.[/quote]

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