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[quote=Anonymous]Before you do anything, please, talk to your ob/gyn. The delivery nurse -- who likely will never see you again in your life -- may say one thing, and you might find that your doctor says there could be other reasons for this scarring that have nothing to do with abuse.

For the nurse to say the sole reasons are either one type of procedure or sexual abuse is pretty black and white; before you start to eat yourself up worrying if you were abused, please, get another opinion from someone else you trust, and who has examined you for years.

I'm not saying this nurse was wrong, but I'm saying you need to take a deep breath and not assume that what she said was entirely the only possible circumstance for this condition, ever. She may only know of two reasons for this. That does not mean there are no other possible explanations.

You said that "so many question marks have come up lately" regarding abuse -- do you mean you, yourself, have other things besides this nurse's comment that make you suspicious? Or are you referring just to how her comment has concerned you?

I do hope you will now get regular pelvic exams. You have a baby who needs you to be healthy, and if you go back to refusing exams (and I assume not getting PAP smears?) you are risking missing things that could take you away from your child forever. I would first talk to my ob/gyn about this nurse's comment (which may be unnecessarily feeding your overall fear of anyone but your husband touching you even medically) and then I might explore whether you need some therapy to help you overcome whatever makes you so afraid that you won't get even basic health care. But don't go in assuming that you were abused or seeking to dig out abuse that might not be there; first, get the medical advice straight.

I really hope you get this worked out in your mind and that all is well![/quote]

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