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[quote=Anonymous]What's with all the quick jump to diagnose this behavior?  He's unmotivated because he probably has a cushy life.  If he were hungry and had no money or food, he'd be plenty motivated to find food.

Too many kids these days don't seem to want to do things that are "boring".  My kids are the same way.    Do you notice that these kids can focus on something for hours and hours that are interesting to them, but then can't seem to focus when they do things that are "boring", like school work?

He's also 12 - preteen, possibly going through some changes, and per OP's description of the kid, the personality traits probably don't help.

You should continue to hold him accountable.  If his grades slip, he doesn't get xyz privilege.

Sure, send him to therapy to find out why he isn't happy if you want to go that route.  But why be so quick to think he might have ADHD?  How about the old fashioned "kid needs a kick in the pants" therapy?

I'm not saying that ADD or depression isn't real.  But I think a lot of kids just need a kick in the pants, or as OP suggested, military school.  Why are we so quick to diagnose everything, that every type of behavior needs a medical label?  Seems like people just need an explanation as to why my DC does this or that.  The explanation often times is just "they are kids that need to learn to deal with life."[/quote]

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