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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You would have no reason for living if you didn't have kids?

You sound codependent. That is a magnet for abusers. Hope you are in therapy to address that.[/quote]

Yes, I'm in therapy, he's in therapy, one kid is in therapy, perhaps the dog should be in therapy? We're also in couples therapy to develop a "cooperative co-parenting relationship".

Did I bring issues (such as having experienced severe physical and emotional abuse at the hands of my mother) to this marriage? You betcha. Does that mean his abuse was ok? No. Does it make it any less worse that we stood up in front of 300 people almost 20 years ago and said "'till death do us part"? Also no.

I did not cause him to abuse me. That he chose himself based on his own life experiences. I chose not to stay until his choices killed me, which they came close to doing more than once in the months preceding our split. Denial or prevention of medical care is also a form abuse can take. That doesn't mean there is a ton to look forward to, honestly. It will be a slow climb back to health and through the grief before there is a chance to even think about or develop other reasons to keep on going. It would be naive to think it would be any easier. For now, doing it for the kids will have to be enough until I get stronger.
Random typos/words = iPhone. Please excuse them.
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