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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm newly involved with a man the last few months.  Whenever I have gently stated my feelings about something in our relationship, and my need in regard to that, he freaks out.  I mean, he gets so upset and says sorry over and over, but then shuts down and "can't talk" and has to go (like if we're on the phone) or even when together.  Then it's like there is a sulking thing going for a day or two.  I try to talk about it and explain it, reassure I still love him all the same, just asking for something I need (something small and reasonable).  It doesn't seem to help.

It seems he is so affected by anything he perceives as criticism from his SO, that it really upsets him.  But then I also feel like the doesn't like it, so he uses the "I'm so injured" routine and gets so upset and sulky, making it a huge deal, to [b]deter[/b] me from saying those types of things in the future.  More like it's a manipulation, a way to control something he doesn't like from happening again.  I suppose it still really bothers him in that case, but he is trying to manipulate the situation with his tantrums/sulking.  Thoughts anyone?  Tell me about these people.  This is new to me.[/quote]

OP can you give examples please?[/quote]

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