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[quote=Anonymous]Working mom of two children here, one internationally adopted at 10 months and one biological child.

Our agency said someone had to be home for 12 weeks, but could be either the father or mother in some combination (in other words, didn't have to be the same person for the 12 weeks).  I ended up taking 3 months of annual and sick leave and then my husband took 3 months afterwards. I know for us, having a child who was an older infant at the time of the adoption, the agency really stressed that no one but DH and I should care for our child for a good while because bonding and attachment needed to happen first.  In the end, we didn't fully adhere to that- we had my parents and sister around, but for anything like crying or rocking to sleep, we did that.  In your case, I don't know how different it would be since your child will be a newborn.

And to offer a different perspective than the other mom to bio and adopted kids, I actually needed a lot more time to bond with my bio child, as did DH.  A lot more time.  I didn't feel like carrying him for 9 months made me feel more attached or bonded, so I guess each person is different.

Also, post-adoption depression is real, just like PPD, fyi.

Good luck and congrats![/quote]

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