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[quote=Anonymous]Excellent post from 06:16.  OP, I totally understand how you're feeling.  My DH suffers from depression/ADHD and much of what you describe applies to our marriage.  There was a really rough period that lasted a couple years that I felt abandoned  He was in an uncontrolled depression, unavailable physically and emotionally to our family, short tempered with the me and the kids and not at all the person I married.  And the lies!  Even when he got his depression under control, he still lied about shit constantly.  I saw some of our family pictures taken 6 years ago and remember how bad our situation was at that time.  It was like a slap in the face that woke me up to just how much our relationship has deteriorated.  This isn't what I envisioned all those years ago when we were first married and I'm not willing to live my life this way any more. So I'm making changes.

These changes do NOT include an EA.  As tempting as it can be, as ego boosting, as energizing and all that, it's just not who I want to be.  The circumstances I've lived through these last 7 years are classic causes of affairs but that wouldn't justify MY behavior.  I know I'd feel 10x worse afterwards.  It's just not worth it - not because of the hurt it would cause my husband but because of how it would hurt me.  I don't need to deal with that on top of everything else I need to deal with.  It never ends well.  Hugs.[/quote]

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