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[quote=Anonymous]My husband was smoking pot and drinking pretty heavily daily. I knew about the drinking but had no clue about the pot. When he started up with the pot, he got crazy paranoid and mean as hell. That went on about a year of almost daily fights, his saying HORRIBLE things (I'm a whore, he will take our child away, he will tell our child how much of a whore I am).  Bad stuff (to me anyway).

He got a DWI and that was a come to Jesus moment for him. He stopped drinking and drugging immediately.  And the nice man I married returned.

However, I completely understand the deep and enduring hurt that comes from those years of hell and disrespect. It took 2 years before I even started enjoying sex with him again. And still I can feel myself hold back. Not fully trust.

I have a child, and I feel it's my ethical o ligation to do everything I can to work on the marriage. So I did.

I also don't believe in cheating in general. I would feel like I failed my own ethical expectations if I cheated. I would separate first before starting something with someone else. But that's me. and if my husband weren't doing anything to help repair the marriage, and it sounds like yours isn't, I'd be on a fast road to separating.[/quote]

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