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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I get it, OP.   We all have our moments when we lose perspective and struggle.  But reading late does not necessarily mean your child is not intelligent.

I can think of several of my childhood peers who were considered slow and did not do well in school, yet are now successful in their field of work.  It's a matter of finding the right field.  You need to open your mind to non-academic possibilities for your child.  Only if your mind is open will you be able to help your child find his path.  Instead of laying awake worrying, make an effort to help your child develop his unique talents.  That is the way forward.[/quote]

OP here. DH is successful and earns close to 7 figures. I stayed home and now do some consulting work so that I could focus on the children. I just feel like such a failure. I have tried so hard to enrich him. I put so much effort into a balanced schedule of studying, sports, music, etc. We do play dates, educational outings, journals, have a million books and go to the library all the time. I don't think there is anything more I can do.[/quote]

20:28 here.  It sounds like you need a therapist.  You have complicated feelings about your choices, your work, and your parenting (and it's normal to have complicated feelings!) and a therapist can help you work through them.  It seems like you are putting a lot of pressure on yourself.  You think if you put certain things in you should get a certain result, like a vending machine.  But parenting is not like that.

Stop pushing so hard on the reading.  Some kids just don't read until later.   In Waldorf schools they do reading later, and in Finland they don't even start formal school until 6 or 7.  Your efforts and enrichments are helping him even if he doesn't read yet.

What does he actually enjoy doing?[/quote]

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