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I will never understand women who invest years of their 20s on the same man with no ring and mo commitment. If you are 31, find a marriage minded man. Find out soon. And then don't waste your time. Men expect sex by the 3rd date. [/quote]

OP here. Hmm...well, I actually was in very love with the person and wanted to try to work on things as much as possible. For me, the love you have is more important than the fact of marriage. I don't regret the things I went through because it made me a stronger, wiser person and I am a great catch for the next man.

Also, I don't care what men expect...I won't be having sex until I'm in a relationship. I am very sexual and enjoy that connection, but I had my share of sloppy dance floor makeouts and fooling around in college and early 20s. Not interested in that at this point in my life. If a guy has a problem with respecting my boundaries, obviously he won't be the right one for me.[/quote]

You have been out of the dating scene for a while.  You are in your 30s.  Expecting a man to wait until you are "In a relationship" is going to limit your options...dramatically.

As a male, who respects women, I will not be exclusive or get in to a relationship with a woman unless we have slept together.  Sex is a HUGE part of a relationship..and if we aren't compatible on that level, then no use becoming exclusive.[/quote]

Totally see your point of view, but part of my personal growth has been not doing something just because someone else wants me to. I plan on being very transparent about this fact, and hopefully a special guy who has gotten to know me and sees potential will be happy to wait until I feel comfortable. I am much more than just someone to sleep with. If anything, I believe it will weed out men who are not looking for the same thing I am.[/quote][/quote]

Well it seems like you have a good head on your shoulders and you know what you want.  That is attractive as well.  Hopefully you do find what you are looking for.  Until then...have some fun ;)[/quote]

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