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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Trust me from someone who wasted too much of my life and my fertile years with a man-child who couldn't make an important decision like this:  don't wait too long.  You've been with him for 8 years, married for 3.  You might have 10 years left in which you could still have a baby, but your chances are lower and lower each year.  If he doesn't go along with your ultimatum, are you ok with being childless or do you want to divorce and try to start a family with someone else?  Let's say it takes 2 years for you to finally let go of this guy.  You'll be 35.  You start dating again and maybe find a good guy by 37.  Give the relationship at least a year before you decide to get married and a year before the wedding itself and you're now 39.  Then you want to give yourselves at least a year as newlyweds before pregnancy so you're now 40 and trying to get pregnant, which is a WHOLE different ballgame than 33.

Life is REALLY short.  Please don't waste too much more time with this guy if his dreams don't align with yours.  Your fertility is much more limited than his.[/quote]

+1. He really took his sweet time deciding marrying you at his age. There are probably other red flags about him being an indecisive/immature man child other than TTC but since this is the topic at hand and really at your age you risk being childless - I would lay down an ultimatum. [/quote]

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