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[quote=Anonymous]Background: We have been TTC for 20 months with no luck. I'm 33, he's 40, so we are not young. We started going to Shady Grove last August. Husband's SA was perfectly fine. My testing all came out normal, except for the discovery of some polyps, which I had removed in October. We made a plan with the Dr. to give it a few months and then start IUI in January (i.e., now). But husband has since decided he's not comfortable moving forward with treatment.

I've tried to talk to him a few times about it in the last month since he proclaimed he wanted to wait. (Wait till when? I don't know. At one point he agreed to February, but I expect he won't stick to that.) I can't really get him to articulate what the problem is. I thought maybe money, but I went over the financials and told him IUI is a drop in the bucket compared to what raising kids costs. He says it's an ego thing, but I figure, we know [i]he[/i] is not the problem, so why does this burst his ego/threaten his masculinity? I ask him if he'd rather adopt, he says no. I ask if he'd rather do ART or be childless, he won't give me a straight answer, he just says he wants a baby.

What I'd like to do is drag him to therapy with me and hash this out with a third party, but that probably won't happen. Anyone have similar experience, tips on how to help him figure out what the problem is and articulate it? I really don't want to strong-arm him into anything, but I'm not sure how much longer I can put up with this.[/quote]

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