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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do your best to not be short with him. This too shall pass. What he will remember is how you helped him through the stress or how you made it worse.

Flex what you can at work. Take on more responsibility for home hearth and kid for awhile.

But...you do need to talk and let him know that while you love and support him his stress cannot be taken out on you and an innocent kid. If he needs a break to cope give him a way to take the break. [/quote]

This. Hugs Op[/quote]

Yep.

Tell him you are doing the best you can, some things are inevitably going to slip, what is he worried about on the homefront, and you take off a day later this week or next to catch up and catch your breath.

And ask him to spare some kindness for you and the kids--that it is unimaginable what he is going through, but that he can't let it get that bad with the family. Find time for just you and he to talk so it doesn't build up quite so much.[/quote]

Agreeing totally with these folks.

Remind each other that you're on the same team - you have each other's backs and you won't make each other pay the price for all the stress you're under if you can help it.

Together figure out ways to get through this period - solutions you come up with together will feel better, stand a chance of working better, and help facilitate better communication:
- what can you let go of for the next few weeks/months?
- what can you hire out?
- find a mother's helper - it's really cheap to have a tweener come in and play with your kids and free you up for a nap or household management or whatever.  Most economical  stress reliever we have in our house.
- let friends help you.
- carve out one night somewhere to do something as a family that you'll enjoy - whatever it is.  A hike, a movie night, pizza on the family room floor, a game of twister, etc...  Plan for and prioritize some little pocket of core family fun - it will help carry you through darker days.

Hang in there.  Remember this is short term and be as kind as you can possibly find a way to be to each other, and to yourselves.[/quote]

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