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[quote=Anonymous]Long story short I'm about to have a conversation with a relative who has been managing our family land for more than 25 yrs. I was raised by my grandmother and grandfather and in their will they left 2 acres and at the time their house and possessions to me. This was only a small portion of the forty acres of land that was left to their remaining children including my mother. The house is no longer on the land . The forty acres of land is farmed out but there is no transparency. Meaning the relative that manages the land doesn't share any information with anyone in the family. There is  an account that receives deposits from the farmer for the rental   but we know nothing of  profits and are told the money is used to pay the taxes on the land.

The person (an aunt) managing took the role from the family member (an great uncle) who was suppose to oversee. He was elderly and has been deceased more than twenty years but the day after my grandmother died she put herself in charge. For decades the day after my grandmother died she came in the house and took over the finances and removed all documents including the family checkbook.I lived there until I went to college and my grandfather would say she was spending his money. For decades I wanted to not believe this was true and our very large family doesn't want to have a broken up extended family so they refused to get involved.

I always thought my grandmother had left her in charge but I got a copy of the will last week and she was not. She also took over the estate of the relative who was supposed to manage the land since he was elderly and gave his property to her daughter after she placed him in a nursing home. He died more than twenty years ago.   She had no authority to do this but she did. This is very painful because she is very close to me and has been my whole life. I'm a new mom and doing my will for my daughter. I will be calling this relative to explain that I will be submitting the paperwork with the state and county so I will be responsible for the taxes on the two acres. She currently allows someone to garden on part of the  land that belongs to me.   Any input or  advice to make this a clear and positive conversation. I don't want to leave this mess for my daughter to deal with but I also want an intact extended  family. Anyone else has something similar or helpful.    [/quote]

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