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[quote=Anonymous]That your sister is dragging this up again and trying to get an apology suggests she still has a long way to go in her healing. It's fine to tell people how they've hurt you, and to adjust your relationship with them depending on how they respond, but you can't force someone to give you the response you're looking for. Your mother is never going to give your sister what she wants, and your sister needs to find another way to make peace with that.

As do you. You need to find a way to stop getting crazy about your mother's refusal to apologize to your sister. As a first step, I'd suggest completely removing yourself from the situation. That your sister cc's you on all of these emails strongly suggests you and she are very much in need of boundaries, and it's time to tell her that you can't be part of these discussions anymore, that they're between her your parents, so please leave you off the emails. If she keeps cc'ing you, warn her that you will block her email completely if she continues, and then follow through on that if she does. And then everyone involved needs to know that you don't want them talking to you about it anymore either. It's their issue, you're not making it yours anymore.

If you're not in therapy yourself (can't remember if you said you were or not, but I suspect if you were you wouldn't be bringing this to DCUM), you should give it a try. For your own emotional health, you need to work on setting boundaries and on accepting your family the way it is rather than hoping for change.[/quote]

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